by Jerome Pearson
August
2012
Flying
into Charleston, SC is always fun. The
airport is small, as are most airports in South Carolina, which makes it easy to grab
luggage and car and get on the road very soon after de-barking the plane. Once exiting the airport you will probably be
getting onto I- 26 and head east or west, but may first want to have lunch and
do some shopping at the Tangiers Outlet Mall prior to entering the Freeway or
perhaps even go into the city of Charleston
to experience some historical treasures.
On
Friday morning, 3 August 2012, I flew from Newark,
NJ into Charleston
for my High School Bi-Annual Reunion.
This was my second time flying to SC in the last several months. My wife and I flew into Columbia in May for our nieces’ wedding. However, this time I was traveling alone, and
chose to fly into Charleston, which is apparently the only airport that has
direct flights to and from Newark.
After
arriving at the airport, I picked-up my rental car which on this day would be a
white 2013 Chrysler 300. Being an
Executive Emeralds Club member with National Car Rental, I can reserve a lower-class
car but would be given my choice up to the Luxury Class and not pay extra. I have obtained this status because I travel
so often, and National Rental Car is one of my company’s preferred
vendors. A Chrysler 300 is much better
than a Ford Fusion or Nissan Altima certainly. When you pull off the lot you
can now imagine that you are in that commercial with the 300 being accentuated
by the Jay-Z remake of Bobby Blue Bland’s 70s classic “Ain’t no Love in
the Heart of the City.” That just must be the hippest car commercial in
the last several years. It is so soulful
and so 70’s.
I decided to stop briefly at the mall but
chose not to have lunch. There are nice
eating places in and around the mall, including Chick-Fil-A, a place I have
lunched at in the past. However, I was
not going there on this day with all the controversy, and I am not sure if I
will be going there again. Although not
gay myself, I do support gay rights, as I do for all human beings, and I find
the company’s president decision to openly demean the lives and morals of many
innocent people insulting and mean spirited.
I frankly don’t care what his views are, but to espouse an unsolicited
negative commentary regarding lives and morality of others was certainly
politically motivated, and perhaps even hateful, and he does not deserve my
money. The chicken is not all that good
anyway!
I
did, however, go into Eddie Bauer at the Mall and pick up a couple of
T-Shirts. Although there are nicer
stores such as Ralph Lauren and Brooks Brothers, I was only looking for T-Shirts,
so Eddie Bauer fitted the bill.
As
I was leaving the Mall, I texted our classmate, Sharon Oliver, about the class
meeting/brunch we were having on Saturday morning at 11. I wanted to know if any classmates were also
getting together on Friday, but Sharon
indicated that only Saturday was planned. She indicated that she, Bertha
Mellerson, and Debra Stukes were slaving in the kitchen just as we were
texting. I was looking forward to seeing Sharon
as I was other classmates, many of whom I had not seen in many years.
During
a birthday cruise in NYC for Leonia Gipson’s 50th birthday back in
2008 (oh I am telling her age!) there were discussions about one of our
classmates being a novelist. I was not
aware of this, but being a lover of books myself, I found Sharon’s email on Amazon and I reached out to
her, and we have been in communication since then. She gets on me all the time about not
attempting to publish my own writings, and I always come up with some creative
excuse for why I have been so remiss, or lazy, perhaps. My job does require some writing as well, but
it is mostly of the technical and scientific nature. However, I will say that after writing a 20
page technical report regarding my assessment of a company’s quality systems
and adherence to regulatory requirements, I gain some sense of therapy when I
am able to morph into a state of “stream of consciousness” and write
more creatively.
After
leaving the mall, I got onto I- 26 west and headed in the direction of Columbia. Suddenly it
began to storm, and the rain was coming down so hard I thought for a moment I
might have to pull over. I could barely
see the car ahead of me. However, the
rain was hard, but brief, and before long the sun had come out again. It was almost noon, so I attempted to call my
cousin, Suzy (Gwendolyn James) in Davis Station to invite her to lunch. However, the call would not go through.
Shortly, I was exiting I-26 for
I-95 and headed North in the direction of Florence.
I remained on 95 for about 40 minutes or so, and then exited onto highway 301
in Manning. I decided to drive to Davis
Station and perhaps surprise Suzy at her house.
When I got to her house, there were no cars in the yard, which was an
indication that she was not home. After
ringing the doorbell and confirming that no one was home, I headed in the
direction of the “Swamp” with plans of having lunch at the
“Jones” restaurant, which is something I tend to do at least once
when I am in the area. The owner of the
restaurant is the father of my cousin James.
I ordered a fried whiting fish sandwich
with French fries, and sweet tea. I now
find whiting better than breams because there are hardly any
bones. With a little bit of hot sauce on
the whiting I was soon in pig’s heaven.
Even the light bread tastes good with such configuration.
After
eating my lunch, I headed to the Hampton Inn, which is located off exit 119 in
Manning. I think the Hampton is the best of the hotels in the
area, and one of my nieces is one of the managers. After going to my room and unpacking, I
decided to take a nap. I had been up
since 5 AM in the morning so a nap was certainly in order.
I
slept for an hour or so and decided to call my sister, Carlethia, who was in
Atlanta for her husband’s family reunion.
I
then called Bobby and Sherial to let them know I was in town and to see if they
would be going to the “meet and greet”, which is the part of the
School Reunion that would occur on that Friday evening. They were headed to Columbia on this evening, however, so we
agreed to meet for Breakfast on Saturday Morning. After agreeing to meet at 8 a.m. for
breakfast, Sherial later texted me and suggested 9, since they returned later
than planned.
I
drove over to the local Wal-Mart to get some supplies such as water, soda,
snacks (peaches), and other supplies. I
spend a lot time in hotels these days, but you can only bring so much on an
airplane. I don’t like those little tiny
bars of soap that hotels provide, so when possible, I always buy a large bar,
even if I wind up leaving it at the hotel when I leave. They are only 99 cents
anyway and well worth the convenience.
After
returning to the hotel, I decided that perhaps I should have a little dinner
prior to going to the “meet and greet” because you never know what to
expect at those events. I walked over to
Shoney’s because at least you could probably select the buffet which should
provide more of variety of offerings.
There was a seafood buffet special on this day for only $9.99.
I
returned to the hotel to prepare for the “meet and greet” which was
to be held at the new St. Paul
Elementary school. I had assumed that the new St. Paul Elementary School
would be near the old school. I called
Clarence to see if he would be attending but there was no answer to his
phone. I got onto 95 south and headed to
exit 108, which is highway 102 leading to Summerton. I decided to go by Clarence’s home anyway, just
in case if his phone number had changed.
For some reason, Clarence has had many number changes over the last
several years. When I got to his home,
although there was a car in the yard, it appeared that no one was home. I rang
the doorbell but did not hear an immediate response, so I went back to my
car. As I was opening the door of my
car, I heard Clarence’s voice.
Clarence
was planning to attend the “meet and greet” as well, so we decided to
ride together. As it turned out, it was
a good thing that I did go by Clarence’s home, because my assumption about the
new St. Paul Elementary school is near the old one
was incorrect. As a matter of fact, the
new school is no longer in St. Paul at all, but is located on the same premises
as the relatively new high school which, itself, is located on the outskirts of
Summerton proper.
At
the “meet and greet”, you can register for Friday and/or Saturday
event and pay the fee if you hadn’t already.
I had already paid via pay-pal and had my little computerized receipt in
hand. I tend to do almost everything I
can on-line these days.
The
“meet and greet” had a relatively small crowd, but it was still
fun. You get to talk to more people and
share more stories than you would at the banquet. Some of my relatives from the James’ side of
my family were there, to include my very dear cousin, Evandy and her husband,
Clarence. Evandy is from the class of
73, and is a retired Philadelphia Police Officer/Detective, but she looks as
youthful as a recent college graduate.
The
food at the “meet and greet” this night was very good, perhaps better
than what we would later have at the banquet.
I always enjoy talking to the “Ragin” family, who on this
night included Darlene, Willette, and Maizie.
They enjoy me telling my little stories – I have many- and Darlene
becomes so gleeful when I tell her about the time I first met her when she was
in the 6th and I was in the 8th grade: While in the 8th grade, one day my
friends and I had walked over to Scott’s Branch from the middle school to
practice band, and as we were waiting in the Gymnasium, we saw this cute little
girl with a ponytail shooting basketball for Mr. Spann. She was actually pretty good. She came over and introduced herself to me,
perhaps because I was the one with the biggest afro, and little girls just
loved cute boys with afros back then. Well, in any case, although I thought she
was so cute, I was just too shy to talk to any girl back then, so I did not
pursue it. When I told Darlene this
story back at the 2008 reunion, she said that it was one of the nicest things
that anyone had ever said to her, especially because I remembered it in so much
detail. She knew I was telling the truth
because she had stopped playing basketball, and she was so pleased to know that
I remembered that she was pretty good. I also tell them story of when we first
saw their sister Manzie, and how we were so impressed with Melvin Carter
because we saw him talking to her. We
thought she was a teacher with her Angela Davis afro and sexy glasses, and we
were like “only Melvin Carter could pull “that”!
I
also enjoyed talking to Norman Billie’s sister, Ruby Pinnex, who would serve as
Mistress of Ceremonies, and her daughter, who was trying to tell us that she
was from the class of 75 with a straight face when she is actually from the
class of 85. Their family and my family
have little moonshine history in common, and the stories are just
wonderful. When I was a kid, I would
hide from my family’s connection to Moonshine, but nowadays, I truly relish the
experience.
I
was also able to talk to James Conyers, who was accompanied by his mother and
his wife. James and I graduated from the
Morgan State University
at the same time, and people always thought we were brothers. I talked briefly with Furman Georgia, who is
someone I had not seen in a very long time, and his sister-in-law (my long-time
neighbor) Diane Doughty Georgia, also from the class of 75. Diane’s mother, Ruth and my mother, Ethel
Mae, were very good friends, so Diane will always be special to me. She is the High School Guidance Counselor and
serves on the City Council, whose dimples are just as cute as they were when
she was 6 years old. I was able to speak briefly with Mrs. Adgers, who was a
teacher at Spring Hill Elementary while I was there, and her daughter Naomi,
who apparently does not remember that we were once neighbors and that she was a
friend of my older sister before I started school.
The
next morning, I was at Shoney’s at 9 as I awaited Bobby and Sherial, Javon, and
Audrey. However, when Bobby left the
house, he said Sherial was still asleep.
My wife and I are God Parents to their son, Javon, and we always want to
know how he is doing in school, and his preparations for college. I asked him if he had taken the SAT, but I
had forgotten that he was just a rising junior and not a senior. We wanted to ensure that he was planning to
take the SAT much in advance, so that it would allow enough time for a re-take if
it is ever deemed necessary. These days,
kids have so many more options and luxuries than we did 35 years ago. While in High School they get to visit
several colleges, which would provide a sense of what a college campus life is
like. I think that I had visited only
one college prior to enrolling as a freshman, and that was when I accompanied
my friend Clarence to Columbia one Saturday
morning in 1974 to pick-up his sister, Thomasine, from Allen University. I had not even seen the school I would be
enrolling as a freshman until the day before registration, which resulted in a
rather crude and rude awakening.
After
breakfast, I returned to my room in order to get ready for our class meeting,
which was going to be held at the Scott’s Branch Elementary cafeteria. When I got to my room, it was being cleaned
by a former schoolmate, Theresa Oliver who was one grade ahead me but who I had
known since I started the first grade.
There were two Theresa Oliver’s in our high school; one was dark
complexion and one light. This was the
light complexion Theresa who went to Spring Hill Elementary while I was
there. She is such a sweet person, and
we recognized each other immediately and I gave her big hug. I am always a little self conscious when I
see former schoolmates doing jobs that I am sure they would rather not be doing,
but they do it with a great smile, nonetheless.
I always want them to know that I in no way will ever think less of
them, and I certainly don’t feel superior to them in anyway. I make every
effort to speak to them and let them know that I am still the same Jerome they
knew many years ago, and my respect for them is truly based on my understanding
of their inner qualities rather than any kind of economic status.
At
around 11 on this Saturday Morning, I finally left the hotel and headed towards
the class meeting. When I drove up the
street near Scott’s Branch Elementary, I pulled over and parked behind a Black
Acura. I saw two people standing near
the entrance to the cafeteria that turned out be Sharon Oliver and Ronald
Nelson. I recognized Sharon immediately since she hasn’t changed
much since high school; she even seems as if she is almost the same size almost
35 years later. The other person happened to be my long-time friend and
neighbor Ronald Nelson. I was so surprised to see Ronald since I had not seen
him since Miami
hosted the event back in 1998, and I wasn’t sure if he was even aware of the
School Reunion, and certainly not the class meeting. Once arriving in the cafeteria, I was so
happy to see many classmates I had not seen in many years. I was so pleasantly surprised to see Arnett, although
I forwarded her emails regarding the meeting as well as the reunion
itself. Arnett, Bertha Mellerson, and
Betty McFadden are ladies I have known since the first grade. And when I pulled in behind that black Acura
a few moments earlier, I had that rather sneaky suspicion, and perhaps hope,
that it would belong to Arnett; it was just my intuition that was later proven
to be correct. I have emailed Arnett
over the past several years, but had not heard her voice since 1996, so it was
so wonderful seeing her and others in all their glorious and physical
presence.
Although
the crowd at our school meeting was small, I think we were genuinely like
family, and it was as wonderful as a family reunion, and truly showed why our
class of 1976 is one of the more memorable classes to have ever come through
our high school. I think we are all so
pleased at the successes of others, and we genuinely grieve the suffering and
struggles of those who may not have been quite as fortunate.
Our
meeting was in the Cafeteria and my first impression was just how small it
seemed. I was trying to envision how it
was possible for such a small facility to accommodate all the high School and
Elementary school students back in the day.
Our class alone was nearly 200 students, so how could that be? I would
say, however, that it did not seem small to me back then, but it certainly does
now! To be frank, it seems that everything seems smaller these days. Even the distance from location to location
seems shorter. I used to think that it
would take nearly 2 hours to drive from the airport in Charleston to my home in
Davis Station, but now it is not much more than an hour, if that, especially
with my “heavy foot.”
Anyways
we had our meeting and began planning for own class 40th reunion
which will happen in the next several years.
(I just can’t believe it’s been nearly 40 years). We mixed our meeting with little fun stories
from our past and present which included such things as Arnett reminiscing about the fear she had of
one of our elementary classmates (I was afraid of her too,) whose name I will
not mention; Debra reminiscing about once as a kid she was , inadvertently,
chasing some lady with a butcher knife; and Earl Wilson talking about the
challenges of coming up in the Wilson’s house-hold as a kid with brothers who
could probably be used in a few of those episodes of “Scared
Straight.”
After
the meeting, we bided each other good-by and went our separate ways, knowing
that some of us would also be getting together for the School Reunion Banquet
that was scheduled for later Saturday evening.
However, I do think that we have built a platform from which to launch
our class website which would be used as a tool for communication, planning,
enhancing camaraderie, and hopefully positively affecting the overall quality
of life of fellow classmates.
The
School Reunion Banquet was held in the New St. Paul School Gymnasium. Many of the tables were reserved even though
there were enough seats for everyone.
Reserving a table would ensure that you are able to sit at table with
family and friends, if you so desired, but it did cause some bit of discomfort
for those who did not reserve a table like me.
Of course, I always show up early, so despite not having reserved a
table I am usually able to sit almost where I want to. However, most people were amenable to
allowing others to sit at their tables because very often a table that could
seat 8 people was only reserved for 4. All in all, I think everyone was
comfortably seated in the end and we spent much of the time walking around and
taking pictures in any event.
The
event was certainly enjoyable, and the food was acceptable, even if the food at
the “meet and greet” was just a little bit better. I was happy to be seated with an old friend,
Patricia Pringle, who is the Clarendon County Auditor. Patricia, Clarence and I worked together one summer,
and she has been our dear friend ever since. We worked together at the feed-a-child program
in Rimini
during the summer of 1977. Clarence and
I would drive together, so one day towards the end of work, I was sitting inside
Patricia’s 1965 burgundy Chevy Impala talking to her and her sister, when
Patricia took off with me in the back seat of the car. She drove all the way to her house, which
caused Clarence to have to come to her house to pick me up. As we were driving, I kept saying to her
“where are you taking me, where are you taking me”, and she was just
laughing and driving with me looking out of the back window to see if Clarence
was following. She is, however, such a
lovely person, and a much-cherished friend.
Pictures
were being taken by Sammy Levy who has turnout to be an excellent photographer. When we were kids, I never knew that Sammy
had an interest in photography, but he and his family have built quite an
impressive business and my guess is that he was doing well on that night. There were group pictures, class pictures, family
pictures, etc! Whatever sort of picture
you wanted, Sammy could provide it, and the pictures were available within a
short time in the specific size requested.
There
was one family picture that sparked my curiosity, however. I noticed that my former neighbors, the
Nelsons, taking a family picture. In
that picture I saw Ronald & wife, Ronald’s mother, Ruth, his sisters, Cassie
and Iris.
There
was no guest speaker on this night but there was a guest singer, who is from
the class of 75, and someone who also was in elementary school with me. I did not recognize her at first, partly
because her name is now Dr. Evelyn Murray Drayton, and I was not aware of her
married name. Also, I did not know that
she sang, and did not know that she was a writer who has written five books,
mostly with a religious theme to include her story about how she had to fight
off witchcraft in church. I only
recognized who she was when she came to our table. I did buy one of her books “Beyond our
Scars” which she was apparently selling from her purse on this evening.
The next day according to the reunion itinerary, it indicates
“Worship Services (Church of your choice)”. They always include Sunday on the itinerary,
even though the events are over on Saturday.
I was debating whether I would be going to the Church of my choice
or any church whatsoever. But I realize
that if I wanted to see family members who I had not seen, then I needed to
head over to New Light. New Light is the
church I was raised in and the church that I saw every day for many years since
we lived so close. Also, I was Sunday
school teacher there from the time I was 12 years old and was teaching the
senior class when I was only 15 until I went away to college. Each time I visit, I am always asked to
introduce myself, as if everyone does not already know who I am, with the
church being so small and filled with mostly family members. Also, there is always a bit of theater in
the church, which inspires many of my stories.
Well I did go to New Light, and had to introduce myself as usual,
which is something I have become quite good at since I have to do this all the
time. In my current job, I am always visiting other companies, and one of the
first things we do is introduce ourselves which requires presenting a bit of
biography. Therefore, I have had to
introduce myself to strangers in such places as Germany,
India, Indonesia, Ecuador,
Toronto, Amsterdam,
and almost every state within the U.S. As a result, the art of self-introduction has
become second nature.
On this Sunday one of my former classmates was delivering the
sermon. Reverend Johnny Lee Lawson is
the Pastor at New Light, but he was absent on this day due to his own illness
and the illness of his wife, Elanora.
Therefore, one of my high school classmates, Pastor Delores (Jones)
Parker, was offered the privilege of
delivering “God’s Word” on
this day, as the other pastors who are actually my sisters (Ethel and Denise –
their mother raised me) did most of the coordination.
Her sermon was based on Isaiah 38:1 “Set your house in order
for you shall soon die”. She compared
her own ordeal to Hezekiah who was presented with a message from God through
Isaiah that he would soon die and needed to get his life in order”. She seemed to be indicating that just as
Isaiah was giving Hezekiah a message from God, she too had received a message
from God to return to New Light.
After church I went by my cousin Suzy’s house again to see if she
wanted to go to dinner. She was not home but her older sister Glenda (Dunk),
who now lives with her, was. Dunk always
has lots of history about our family and various occurrences in our little town
and it is always wonderful talking to her since I am such an historical
buff. If you want to know anything
about people who have lived in Davis Station, then Dunk is a good person to
talk to. I decided to treat her to
dinner at the Golden Corral in Sumter,
which offers a decent buffet in the area.
During the drive and during dinner it was wonderful tapping into her
memories about our family’s history which also confirms some of my own
memories. I remember once telling a
story about a murder which occurred in Davis Station. This murder occurred before I started school,
but I recall seeing the two men just hours before one of them killed the other. Not only did I see them, I recall the younger
man showing a new gun to an older man who he would later kill that Friday
night. Because I seem to be the only one
in my family who remembers the incident, I am sure some people may have thought
I was making things up. However, in 2008
I was telling Suzy about this story and the names of Individuals involved. Suzy asked her older sister whether she
recalled the incident and Dunk said “yes”; Dunk even indicated that
the two men had also visited their home just prior to the actual shooting. Suzy and I are the same age, but she was too
young to remember this incident, but I remember it in detail.
On Monday morning, I had breakfast at the hotel, which was not bad
for a hotel of this class. The breakfast
was not like the buffets at Marriott’s and Hiltons, but it was at least
free.
After breakfast, I returned to the airport in Charleston
for my trip back to Newark. Nowadays I do spend a lot time in both large
and small airports all over the world, but none of them provides that special
sense of homecomings and memories as the very small ones in South
Carolina.
Back in April I shared a very long story about my second trip to India. This, however, is my story about coming home,
and I truly enjoy sharing my memories with family and friends. I remember all these things because I am
truly an “old soul”.
As indicated in Langton Hughes’ poem “The Negro Speaks of Rivers”:
I have known rivers: I have known rivers ancient as the world and older
than the flow of blood in the human veins.
“My soul has grown deep like the rivers”.
Jerome Pearson
Wayne, New Jersey